A Mother's Letter To Her Children About Marriage (worth reading - SHARE THIS MESSAGE)

Dear Children,

Should the Lord give you the good gift of a husband or wife, and I hope He does, there are a few things I want you to know. Things that you may not hear from anyone else, and certainly not on TV or other media. Sadly,... your church may not even tell you.
Marriage, sweet little people, is not for the purpose of your happiness. Happy as I want you to be and hope you will be, you must yet understand that marriage is God’s design and His purposes must be pursued in order for you to be truly happy. His end is holiness and He will use all things in a life devoted to Him to fulfill that end.

To my girls:
Marry a man whose first pursuit is Christ. After that, he is not hard to please. Admire him, cheer him on and show gratitude, and he will fall over himself trying to please you. Smile often, speak well of him always, and do whatever necessary to try and maintain a pleasant mood about you so that it transfers to your home, making it a place where he and your children love to be.
You’ll have bad days of course, crying days even, and that’s when you go to your bedroom, kneel on the floor and beg the Lord to carry you. Then get up, get a fresh perspective (crayons will come off the wall), and try again. Above all else, make a home.

To my boys:
Marry a woman whose first pursuit is Christ. After that, she may be hard to please only if you don’t know “the secret”. What is that? I’m glad you asked. The secret to pleasing your wife is to make her feel safe and treasured. You may have to move out of your comfort zone to do this at times. She won’t always readily translate the oil change to love, though it means that. But let me give you a “secret question”–a question you need to ask her often. It’s not just in the asking, though. Be sure to focus your eyes on hers, maybe even touch her shoulder or face, and then ask: “What’s on your mind these days? “ And then be ready to listen. She wants you to draw her out. She will perceive this as your protection over the matters of her heart. Tenderness, listening, protection. That’s what she wants.

To you all:
If your wife or husband does something really stupid, forgive. If they do it again, forgive again. Forgiveness must be the propelling force in your lives each day. Dwell on the strengths, push out thoughts of their weaknesses. Take every thought captive–choose to love.

Here’s that part you are not going to hear often:
If you find yourself “not happy”, having lost attraction, disinterested, etc., you are not permitted to even think about a divorce. If you find yourselves arguing more and more, don’t think for a minute that “the children will be better off out of this”, because they won’t.

The vows you took on your wedding day were not suggestions. They were covenant vows, before a Holy God, family and friends, to stay with this person the rest of your life, even if you don’t feel like it. You swore a solemn oath and if you can’t live up to it, don’t get married. Decide up front that your marriage is irrevocable. There is far more motivation for getting along if your “marriage house” has no door.

Do not share intimate thoughts or feelings with anyone of the opposite sex. Do not find yourself alone for any length of time with such either.

Divorce is not a “private option”. It will affect multiple families for many generations. When you “separate what God has joined” you permanently injure far more than just yourself.

Guard your marriage as fiercely as you would guard your own life. Treat your spouse as an extension of your flesh, just as God sees you. Treat your spouse like other family members. You know, “you gotta love ‘em, they’re the only family you’ve got”.

I want you to be happy, I surely do. But I will pray for you to be holy.

Proverbs 19:14 - "Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the LORD."
Proverbs 20:6-7 - "Many a man claims to have unfailing love, but a faithful man who can find? The righteous man leads a blameless life; blessed are his children after him."

God bless you saints...

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What's Your Flavour

The whole idea of value or valuation is predefined in the Concepts of worth. By my definition, value is more to me like "Your Flavour"

The value of something is a measure of how much that something is worth in cash or in any other element that can be translated as worth. Value depends on how much benefit and pleasure that something is going to give a person. Value is unique to every individual and is based on personal preferences and circumstances; different people can have a different value for the same item.

The value of an individual is basically how much that person is worth. The value of a person depends on how much output the individual is expected to generate in the future. Organizations spend a lot of value (time and money) in the search of values so that in the long term, greater value is generated through the dissipation of value by his/her employees in the place of service. This is also pretty imperative especially in the context of marriage, when individuals set out to choose a life partner, their eyes is not only set on the immediate, but on the possibility of a better future with whoever they choose to pitch their tent with. The future is a key element in juxtaposing value but more importantly, the NOW is important in identifying value and this "NOW value" is measured by actions and reactions to the immediate element of measure of value as defined by the worth you put on yourself.

To be aware of oneself is to have a concept of oneself.

The self concept is how we think about and evaluate ourselves, your self-worth is the way you see yourself, the way you evaluate and perceive yourself, your social and psychological humanism, a measure of your inundating identity. The scripture so defined self-worth... "As a man thinks in his heart, so his he", this clearly defines every individual as a product of thought and so far more, what you think on the inside defines your actions, reactions, interactions and appearance on the outside which ultimately defines you. The big question is then palpable; what fills your thought? What governs your thought pattern? What is on the inside of you that defines you? To what extent do you value yourself?

Your self-worth predefines your self esteem and self esteem is measured by the extent to which we like accept or approve of ourselves or how much we value ourselves. Self esteem always involves a degree of evaluation and we may have either a positive or a negative view of ourselves. What runs through you when you wake up in the morning, who are you when you go to bed at night, here at your place of service, how do you see yourself, what is  your NOW value and how relevant and valuable will you be in the future as measured by you and the people who invested value in you with the potentials of you reproducing greater value. Are you a value-driven investment with the potential of producing better value as ROI

What is your surface and inner value? Who are you when you are being watched or supervised and what do you represent when you are trusted and left to deliver with little or no supervision. Believe me, your true value is real, when there is no one there to measure or evaluate you, your value is defined by the thoughts of your heart, your thought pattern is orchestrated and engineered by what you feed your mind with (that is why it's called "food for thought"). Take a sit back, stop for a minute and think. You are what you think and that's what the world will see.

After reading all this jargons that I took my irredeemable time to write, oya! please tell me what's your flavour?

NB: We've all been a part of the problem for awful too long, let's change it, let's be a part of the solution in it. Feed your thought, Think for change, Be the change you want to see.

1. Accounting: The monetary worth of an asset, business entity, good sold, service rendered, or liability or obligation acquired.

2. Economics: The worth of all the benefits and rights arising from ownership. Two types of economic value are (1) the utility of a good or service, and (2) power of a good or service to command other goods, services, or money, in voluntary exchange.

3. Marketing: The extent to which a good or service is perceived by its customer to meet his or her needs or wants, measured by customer's willingness to pay for it. It commonly depends more on the customer's perception of the worth of the product than on its intrinsic value.

4. Mathematics: A magnitude or quantity represented by numbers.

Where Is My Pen?

The urge to ink my thoughts as usual has been striking and biting my being for months unending, not for the lack of what to write, but I just couldn't find my pen.

I have got a whole rack of ball point pen with exclusive blood-life in them in colors and shades that suites the hands of the finest of writers, my writing pads are ready for all kinds of scribing that you could imagine but what I seek is not the pen that inks but that which fills the gap of thought and imagination, the pen that writes not words but wisdom, not tenses but values, not phrases but quotes that birth the changes we desire in all.

I have been locked in a voided world for longer than I could ever imagine I would endure, a world where value is priced and not valued for the worth of what it can produce or has produced, a country filled with exciting emptiness, where nothing is driven by value but the intrigues what could have produced value from the outside and from deep within. I have seen the earth rejoice over nothingness while the heavens hang like  bats in thought, hoping the lights that shines will be seen by all and not the shadows they see that seems to be the light they seek. I was lost in it until but now I have found me, but I lost my pen and I need to find my pen again.

I have almost settled for less but I am glad I am blessed, I almost lost my sting but below my jagged teeth still lies my venom (thanks to Baba for the 10th of March, 2009), I lost my sword but along the line I found my fighting style "Tai Shi Ka". It's victory for me, a new beginning and a real beginning for me. It's the beginning of a new year for me and in it I must find my pen. Purpose Engendered Newness! That's my pen..

Happy Birthday To Me!

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